By Jack Stern
From Reform Judaism, Winter 1997
Reprinted with permission from the author and Reform Judaism Magazine --- Published by the Union of American Hebrew Congregations
Many years ago I was working with one of my bar mitzvah students, who was totally negligent in his preparations. Exasperated, his mother finally turned to the boy and said: ``I'm sure that Rabbi Stern studied hard for his bar mitzvah, and that's what you should be doing!''